WARNING: This page is about a different car, the 2013 Acura MDX, 2012 Acura MDX, 2011 Acura MDX, and 2010 Acura MDX. However, it is still accessible from the selected car via links, so may be relevant.
To disconnect the connector, pull the lever (A) while pushing the lock tab (B) down, then pull the connector (C).