61 13... Circular connector, 7-pin, 8-pin, system D2.5
WARNING: This page is about a different car, the 2013 BMW X5, 2012 BMW X5, and 2011 BMW X5. However, it is still accessible from the selected car via links, so may be relevant.
Special tools required:
Carefully pull off rubber grommet (1).
Carefully press back retaining tabs (2) of internal connector (3).
Slide internal connector (3) in direction of arrow until retaining tabs (2) lock into locking groove (4).
Use special tool 61 0 303 (61 1 132) to press back retaining hook (5) of corresponding contact and pull out cable with contact.